Effects of Bully on Children and How to Overcome It

Effects of Bully on Children and How to Overcome It

Currently cases of bully (bullying) are increasingly rampant in the community. There are many negative impacts of this behavior, both for those who are bullied (perpetrators) and those who are being bullied (victims). Therefore, this habit of bullying must be stopped immediately.

Bully is physical or mental violence that is committed by one or more people by means of assaulting or intimidating others. This violent behavior is common in school environments and generally affects children or adolescents who are physically weaker than their peers. Sometimes, the child who is being bullied may lie so that it is not known by others.

Bully Effects and How to Overcome Them 

Recognizing the Effects and Characteristics of Child Victims of Bully

Bullying does not only occur when the perpetrator physically abuses the victim, such as hitting, slapping, or kicking. Bully can also be carried out without using physical violence, namely verbally such as taunting, calling someone insulting, spreading gossip about the victim, or humiliating in front of many people.

In this technological era, bullying is becoming easier to occur, often known as cyber bullying. Perpetrators simply use social media to bring down their victims, such as distributing negative themed texts, photos, or videos about the victim. This bullying behavior has many negative effects on the victim, including:

Experiencing mental disorders, such as depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, difficulty sleeping well, wanting to hurt yourself, or even suicidal thoughts.

  • Become a drug user.
  • Afraid or lazy to go to school.
  • Decreased academic performance.
  • Joining in violence or taking revenge.

Therefore, as a parent you must be observant to see the characteristics of changes in children's behavior, such as not being enthusiastic about going to school, decreased learning achievement, or decreased appetite. Other changes that can be seen, such as:

  • Suddenly losing friends or avoiding friend requests.
  • His belongings were often lost or destroyed.
  • Experiencing sleep disorders.
  • Ran away from home.
  • Looks stressed when you get home from school or after checking his cellphone.
  • There may be wounds on his body.

If these traits exist in your child, try to talk to him or her heart to heart. Start the conversation in a subtle way so that the child wants to express his heart. Teach him how to react to people who are mean to him, such as avoiding them when they meet them or saying, "Leave me alone."

One other thing to remember is not to teach to fight back or abuse the perpetrators. But teach him to stay tough, and don't give bullies a chance to feel like he's won because they gave him up. Also give encouragement to remain confident and keep hanging out with other good kids.

How to Stop Bully Actions

In stopping bullying, you can actually intervene by coming to school and then reporting the person who abused your child. That way, the school can handle it directly and report it to the parents concerned.

Bullies must be stopped immediately. If allowed to continue, this behavior can damage your child and the younger generation. Here are some steps parents can take to prevent bullying:

  • Cultivate moral values  from an early age.
  • Encourage children to jointly assess and distinguish good deeds from actions that are not appropriate to others.
  • Build good communication with children, and accompany them in the process of growth and development.
  • Teach children how to be assertive, aka firm but always polite, so that they are not easily oppressed and become a people pleaser.
  • You can also advise your child to dare to report to teachers at school when they experience bullying behavior.
  • If your child feels unable to speak in person, he or she may be able to write them a letter or email them.
  • If your child is the bully, then invite the child to discuss and find out the cause. Explain that this is not good behavior, and is not acceptable.
  • Parents can invite children (both perpetrators and victims) to undergo counseling so that their mindset and behavior can be better directed.
  • No less important, be a good role model for children. Because consciously or not, children will imitate their parents as a measure of behavior.

With the support and cooperation of parents and teachers, children can enjoy the learning process at school without bullying. If you are worried that the problem of bullying will have an effect or affect on your child's development, don't hesitate to consult a child psychologist.

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